No more Awkward Silences with Women!
Ah you saw a very attractive woman in your field, and you approached at her. You introduced yourself you, and then you started talking a bit…all of a suddent you lost your train of thought and the conversation staled and you stood there like a weirdo without ever ushing another word from you mouth.
This situation of how to keep a conversation going after the introduction is very common among guys, especially after you get passed all the common intro-questions, such as “What’s your name?”, “How are you?”, “Where are you from?”, etc.
Now does this same problem exist when you are chatting to your friends and family?
Look you’re not the only one. She probably also doesn’t know what to say her, and thinks she is a bad conversationalist as well.
How to handle this?
The most common thing to do is to inquire her and just be fascinated in what she says. The thing is, this is the same boring thing all the other guys do, besides you don’t want to be an interviewer?
You can tell stories. Storytelling will be the thing that will fuel most of the conversations, but if you don’t have a bag of interesting relevant stories, I recommend you stock up on some memorized stories to pull out to tell at any time. In my book the Art of Social Natural, I do get into a number of storytelling techniques in how you can use just one memorized story to come up with fresh new stories that are relevant to the situation to tell every time anywhere.
Now I have this effective strategy I called “obviousation – Saying the Obvious to Neutralize the Awkwardness (S.O.N.A.).”
(Now say it with me, “Saying the Obvious to Neutralize the Awkwardness”…good job 
This method works like a charm.
This breaks down a lot of barrier, so it will feel just like chatting to your friends and family when you don’t have these barriers. You act relax and just speak your mind.
Imagine you’re talking to a girl and abruptly the conversation dies and there is this moment of awkward silence.
You’re thinking this awkward silence is caused by you and that you are a terrible conversationalist; however does it cross your mind she is thinking the same thing too?
Simple solution, SONA (Say-the-Obvious-to-Neutralize-this-Awkwardness), just say in a cool joking manner something similar,
“Huh, have you noticed we’re both not great conversationalists? We’re both quiet right now? We don’t know what to about anymore? You know…do you just hate when this happens? When 2 people are conversing they both become silent, and usually they think they are the one responsible…but they don’t get is that the other person has the same thing in mid, also.”
This can even generate a laugh from her, the laugh of recognition.
And you two can then go into a conversation about “conversations”.
Watch as how she warms up from here, you will elevate from this place of being this stranger to being somebody she’s already familiar with.
Also you are being the man here who is easing that same tension and awkwardness she experiences from not having anything to say, or she will inevitably do it for you…by “I need to find my friend”.
Ever wonder why comedians are skilled at the things they do to come out hilarious? They are ballsy enough to state the obvious that nobody else is willing to admit, but hey they are comedians and do it in an entertaining mannerism, allowing them to slide through with it.
after that, you can also go into a cold-reading.
After the conversation about “conversations” ends”, and there comes again another awkward silence, SONA again.
“So what can we talk about now? I think this time, you’re the one responsible.”
Be playful with these silence moments.
After you guys get passed this, magically you guys will feel like insider, and will feel more at ease and relaxed and have a stronger connection.
The way to depict how this feels is become aware the difference in your behavior when initially interacting with a girl and there is this sort of barrier between you 2 making you both can’t entirely relaxed around other each and always be alert to display your best self.
And after you sleep with her, that barrier vanishes and you 2 can become a lot more comfortable not being so alert of how you present yourself because you guys have gone through a lot, had your not so proud moments, shown your flaws and you 2 are both acceptable with them without being judgmental each other.
Not a lot of guys don’t have the balls to do this. What do majority of guys do? They cling for air by continuously asking question; however, by willing to admit this obvious, it conveys balls and honesty, and will penetrate a lot of superficial barriers and get to the real her, and you will be a man she has to get to know.
Gabriel Angelo runs http://www.socialnatural.com, with the unique approach to dating and meeting women, by focusing on developing your “social skills” to be the most socially savvy person you can be, not just with women…but everybody. Although the arts are primarily related to dating and attracting women, they can be applied to other aspects of your life from social, dating, personal, and even professional.
For more information, please visit http://www.socialnatural.com.